Dr. Mike Obsatz, Professor Emeritus at Macalester College
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How to Be a Golden Receiver
Deborah MacDonald, author and business coach, talks about the difference between being a Go-getter and Go-giver. Go-getters are actively involved in getting what they want -- jobs, money, possessions, relationships. Go-givers are busy offering their time, talents, and services to others, those in need.
Golden Receivers get and give, and receive from both the giving and receiving. They believe they deserve to have goals and dreams, and work hard to fulfill them. But they also dedicate their lives to helping others, being able to see the beauty of the process of giving and achieving.
It is all right to achieve in life. It is crucial not to identify and define oneself with one's successes or setbacks. So understand that you are a beautiful child of God, of the Universe whether or not you accomplish a great deal in the outer world. However, it is also important to offer oneself in service to others. The balance of these two ways of being offers a joyous combination of finding joy in the process of giving and taking. It means letting good flow in, flow out to others, and experiencing the self as one with the flow.
One way of being a Golden Receiver is to "pay it forward."
Gratitude for all that one has is followed by giving to others. Golden receivers live in gratitude, and turn that into action. Helping others provides an internal meaning and fulfillment that goes beyond material rewards.
So, rather than being a Go-Getter or a Go-giver, it might be wonderful to experience life as a Golden Receiver -- of prosperity, abundance, joys and sorrows as well as Golden Giver of love, energy, time, and attention.
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What has kept me sane and peaceful during these fourteen months of COVID-19
I know I am loved by God.
I have many people in my life who love and support me.
I am healthy and have mobility.
I am grateful to have my creative, physical and intellectual talents.
I can control where I go, but cannot control what anyone else does during this time.
I can still walk outside most of the year and marvel at the magnificence of our natural world.
I can still see people in person outside, masked, at a distance in warm weather -- above 50 degrees.
We have fortunate to have scientists who are giving us the best information they can.
Many people have harder challenges than I have.
I can live without some comforts and distractions.
I have been through much worse than this and survived and thrived.
I am not in this alone.
I can live my purpose no matter what. I can love and support others, share time, energy and talents with others.
I am focused on fostering emotional and spiritual growth in others.
My life has meaning, and I have had many experiences, joys, and adventures so far.
I am not responsible for anyone else's healing, or level of understanding or consciousness.
I have to trust the process -- we will get through this time.
There are many wonderful books to read and movies to see.
Ice cream comes in many delicious flavors.
I can nurture myself and those I love.
I try to not judge others who think differently than I do.
I put out the "good stuff" (love, compassion, kindness, empathy) and let go of the results.
I see people awakening to their wholeness, and the worthiness of all others.
I can still dance.
Prayer, meditation, quiet time, and other spiritual practices are comforting to me.
I have a loving, spiritual community.