Strategic Conflict Avoidance

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Some conflicts are worth getting into, and some are not.  Conflict-avoidance has a negative connotation.  People called this may be seen as weak, cowardly, or defensive.  However, perhaps further examination of this label can reveal some new insights.

The need to resolve conflicts may have something to do with the desire to control.  Sometimes there is a right way, a right idea, a right solution to a problem.  Sometimes it is more complex than that.

Strategic discernment and selective vulnerability are important and healthy ways to navigate life's challenges and disagreements.  Here are some questions that might help.

Is there a reason to engage with this person?
Is it safe to be with this person?  Do I trust this person?
Do they want the best for me, or do they just want to win or be right?
Is this conflict discussion worth my time and energy?
What will I gain from this interaction?

Living a loving, authentic life means being careful, being gentle with oneself, and being IN the world, but not OF the world.  Self-care relates to self-worth.

"I am not avoiding a conflict, I am taking care of myself by respecting my boundaries, needs, feelings, and safety."