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Consciousness and Sacrifice4/5/2021 Empire Consciousness, Oneness Consciousness and "Human Sacrifice" As a child in Hebrew School, I never appreciated the idea that Abraham was asked by God to sacrifice his son. The idea of a God that required a sacrifice was foreign to me. My parents did not believe that, and yet they sent me to a school that taught that.
It was also interesting to me that many Christians I knew as a child believed that "Jesus died for your sins." Again, the idea that someone has to be sacrificed to appease a judging, vengeful God because we are so evil. This is very different from the image of God that Jesus actually taught. According to Jesus, God is loving, forgiving, grace-filled, compassionate, generous and kind. In my extended family, sacrificing for others seemed very important. People in my family or origin often talked about how much they gave up for others, how much they did for others, how much they denied themselves so others could have more. This martyrdom was stressed as a virtue. Since I have moved to a different understanding of God, and a different concept of generosity. I now know that I don't have to give up everything to be a generous, loving person. I can enjoy myself, enjoy material possessions, enjoy nature. I still believe in helping, supporting and nurturing those in need. However, it does not mean that I have to "live poor." I grew up being poor, being part of a farm family where my parents worried about paying the mortgage every month. If we lost the farm, where would we live? We also had enough food, but we had very few "extras." I always wore hand-me-down clothing until I could buy something for myself at age 18. I am sad that there is poverty and oppression, and I will contribute to those in need with my time, talent, and treasure. Usually more than the 10 percent tithing that is encouraged. Another aspect of being sacrificed is related to the intense bullying I experienced from ages 5 - 12 for being Jewish. I was harassed, beaten, shamed, spat at, cursed, and ridiculed. When bullies pick on one person, they are, in effect, projecting and dumping all their sins, frustrations, inadequacies on that person. They believe that by tormenting someone else, they can temporarily relieve themselves from their own feelings of shame, pain, and abandonment. This is like human sacrifice. The Crucifixion, witches burned at the stake, lynching of Black men, and the Holocaust where 6 million Jews were killed, and intense bullying of children and adults -- these all are examples of scapegoating, and finding someone or some group to blame for all of life's difficulties and a person's feelings of worthlessness. It also is a way to feel superior, in control, and purged of one's impurities. Sometimes the victim is blamed, such as in some rape situations. Sometimes, the messenger is blamed, as Jesus was, for his bearing of "good news and glad tidings." If the message threatens the current belief system, it is ignored, or in some cases, destroyed along with the messenger. Empire Consciousness is about domination, power, control, and justifying the degradation of those "at the bottom." This results in bullying, wars, and discrimination and hatred. Part of Empire Consciousness is the belief in scarcity, and the need to hoard and conquer others. All empires have done this. Great Britan is a perfect example -- taking over countries, planting the British flag and turning the inhabitants into slaves. Americans did this with the Native Americans. The other empires -- Greece, Rome, Ottoman, etc. -- conquered and destroyed native people for their own gain. So creating the concept of a punishing, vengeful God goes along with the idea of oppression and oppressors. The image reflects the type of consciousness. One thing that happens with Empire Consciousness is that those all the bottom are taught to distrust and fear each other and fight among themselves. Fear, revenge, and a we/they mentality always exist. Oneness Consciousness is about seeing the connection between all people, and believing there is enough to go around. The God of Oneness Consciousness is one of generosity and compassion. No need to sacrifice oneself, or anyone else. Any individual can live in Oneness Consciousness -- no matter what gender, race, sexual orientation, class, etc. So -- the type of consciousness is the enemy, not particular groups or individuals. Until we get passed labeling and demonizing groups, we will continually promote and live in Empire Consciousness. It is also a way of attempting to deny and medicate one's pain and feelings of worthlessness. It is the refusal to examine oneself, and one's limitations and imperfections -- and still know that one is lovable as he or she is. The answer to moving past the need for human sacrifice is to grow in awareness of the worth and connection of all of humanity.
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Beyond "White Male Privilege"3/23/2021 All White Men Are Not the SameEvery time I see all white men lumped together, it makes me sad. I have known thousands of white men over my almost 80 years on this planet. They have been co-workers, fathers, teachers, students, mentees, relatives, sons, community members, doctors, lawyers, judges, carpenters, plumbers, politicians, farmers, artists, barbers, executives and more. They have ranged in age from 16 to 95. Some have wealth. Others are poor. Many are in between.
There are men in all age groups -- adolescents, young adults, mid-lifers, seniors, elderly. There are men who are living fully, and men who are dying. There are men with families and children. There are men who have lived alone all of their lives. Beyond the label "white male," come a variety of distinctions. There are men who are of minority religions. Not all Jewish white men are the same. They may come from Orthodox, Conservative,or Reform backgrounds. They may have differing beliefs and values. There are also gay, bi-sexual and transgender white men. Some of these have been severely oppressed. There are men with illnesses and disabilities. There are men with status and power. There are men with low status and no power. There are men with deformities, men with cancer and other diseases. There are white men who live in castles and white men who are homeless and starving. Some of the sub-categories consist of lifestyle issues. Some men have been mercilessly bullied as children and adolescents. There are many men who have abused, harassed, abandoned and beaten. There are men from different regions of the country. And there are men who have gone through many losses -- loss of spouses, children, jobs, health, power, income, relatives. There are men who continuously grieve their losses. There are men who don't know how to openly grieve. There are athletic men and clumsy, uncoordinated men. There are handsome men and not-so-handsome men. There are thin men and overweight men. There are men of varying abilities and intellectual capabilities. There are men who are compassionate, and men who are not. There are lovers, and there are haters. Many men have been programmed to be tough, macho, independent, and stoic. Some men belong to groups, and others are isolated. Some men have feelings of worthiness, and others do not. Spiritually, we have a wide range of men who experience spiritual connectedness and many who have none. We can find selfish white men and generous white men. There are white men who are in touch with many of their feelings, and other white men who do not have a clue. So -- this is the just the beginning of looking at the complexity of one group which is often described as all alike -- and all benefiting from White Male Privilege. White men are as different as snowflakes (which are white). Be careful when you talk about White Male Privilege because it is not as obvious as it may seem. Many white men have been oppressed by other white men. Many white men know the fear and terror of being hunted and tortured. Some white men have been killed by other men. Some oppressed men oppress others. Some men who appear to "have it all" really deep inside hate themsevles and hate their lives. The complexity goes on and on. It is sexist to lump all white men together. It is naive, simplistic, and also racist.
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Navigating Our Many Worlds3/16/2021 We are amazingly adaptive and complex creatures. By the time we are old, we have navigated through many different worlds.
THE WORLD OF ME -- Who am I? We have personalities, temperaments and ways of being. Every person is unique, and part of maturing is discovering who one is and what he or she needs. We also change our views, attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors as we age. THE FAMILY WORLD -- Where do I fit? We are born into a family. To survive and thrive in that family, we act in certain ways, trying to fit in and be safe. We are scripted into roles, and we play with them all of our lives. Some roles we learn to play in our family might be: The smart one The quiet one The clown The rescuer of the family The mediator, go-between The one who messes up The passive one The good listener The therapist THE SCHOOL/PEER WORLD -- How do I cope with others and organizational demands? We then join the peer world, the world of children and school. We learn to play the school game, fit in, and get along. We found our group, or niche, if we are lucky. We learn to play a part in that group. We learn the student role, and the friend role. THE PARTNER WORLD -- How do I maintain my own integrity and still adapt to my partner? Eventually, we may find a romantic partner. We play the boyfriend or girlfriend role, This world changes as we age, and we adjust and adapt to expectations. And we learn to relate to our partner's family. THE PARENT WORLD -- What skills are needed to raise this child? When we have children, we join the parent world. Making decisions daily that affect a smaller, helpless being. THE GRANDPARENT WORLD -- How involved do I become? When our children grow up, and have children of their own, we learn to navigate the grandparent role. What are rules, boundaries, and limits? THE WORK WORLD -- How can I be productive, make a living, and get along with others? We start working in young adulthood, and have to adjust to bosses, co-workers, workplace etiquette and rules. If we change careers and jobs, we must adjust to new roles and people. There are often new skills to learn. THE ADULT FRIEND WORLD -- Who are my people? Who we befriend determines how we relate, connect, and act. We develop social groups, hobbies, and past-times which often have guidelines and practices of their own. It is a time of discovery of what one loves to do in one's spare time. THE COMMUNITY MEMBER WORLD -- What is my social and political responsibility? We can become socially and politically active in our communities. As a result, we are thrust into a variety of environments. We develop social values and live them out. We are part of a neighborhood. When we move geographically, we have to start over making new connections, and learning how to fit in. THE SPIRITUAL WORLD -- What is my relationship to the Divine? We join religious groups and institutions, and develop our spiritual lives. We connect with different people from different backgrounds, races, ages and social classes. We develop spiritual practices which provide amounts of comfort and support. We explore questions like "What does my life mean?" THE ELDER WORLD -- How do I grow old and still maintain my sense of identity and worth? As we age, we may retire from work. We grow older, and develop various health issues. We often become medical patients, and generally have to deal with changes in our bodies, hormone levels, and energy levels. Eventually, we decline, and finally die. Many people do not give themselves enough credit for navigating all of these worlds, and adjusting to a wide variety of roles and expectations.
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Icing and the Cake II2/24/2021 The ICING Can Never be the CAKE Part II Two questions remain:
WHY do we not know our own beauty and wholeness? How do we learn that we, the cake, are not enough? When we are born as babies, we believe we are enough. The world then teaches us otherwise through the educational system, parents, the media, peers, extended family and others. Because others believe they are NOT ENOUGH, they cannot fully grasp that small children are enough. You can't teach what you don't believe about yourself. So, we are programmed out of our knowing our perfection. The spiritual/personal journey is one of de-programming, and re-programming ourselves back to self-love, self-acceptance, and seeing the beauty / wholeness / loveability of all others.
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Icing And the Cake2/24/2021 The ICING Can Never be the CAKE The cake. We are the cake. The cake means that we are complete, whole, and wonderful. We are loveable as we are. We are connected, sturdy yet vulnerable, and filled with incredible ingredients. We REALLY are the cake.
We are LOVEABLE as we are. However, some people don't believe that about themselves. The spiritual/emotional journey is one of coming into the full understanding, acceptance, and appreciation of one's cake-ness. This is personal/spiritual growth. We come into this knowing through prayer, meditation, being in nature, and other practices which connect us to our DIVINE ESSENCE. We are continually growing into a deeper knowing of our DIVINE cake-ness. Now, look at the Icing. We can add icing to the cake. Icing includes those special sweet worldly things that can make life feel even better. So -- good relationships, prosperity, enough money, recognition, success, and healthy power in the world are the icing on the cake. BUT THEY ARE NOT THE CAKE. The cake is fine without the icing. The cake stands alone. The problems come when people don't believe they are enough cake-ness, and expect the icing to fill them up. In other words, trying to make the icing into the cake does not ultimately work. For some people, it is a lifelong task to add more and more icing, in the hopes that it will help them feel enough and fulfilled. However, infinite amounts of icing can never be the cake. Continuing to pour on more icing can become an addiction. It creates all kinds of problems including scarcity thinking, fear, and self-loathing. Shame is always a by-product of not feeling like one is enough. Shame causes control issues, defensiveness, and depression. So, to know one is the CAKE involves: Self-acceptance Knowing that one is loveable Striving to make the world feel loveable Seeing the icing for what it is Feeling like enough Seeing and feeling the connection of all creation Having healthy power, and not needing to dominate or control others Inner peace Gratitude Seeing the DIVINE WHOLENESS in themselves We need to help others come into their own understanding that they are enough, loveable -- TRULY the CAKE. That will do a lot to create justice, peace, and community in a shattered world. Let us enjoy our CAKE-NESS. We are ultimately DIVINE.
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Our Many Worlds2/24/2021 Navigating Through Them . . . Navigating Our Many Worlds
We are amazingly adaptive and complex creatures. By the time we are old, we have navigated through many different worlds. THE WORLD OF ME -- Who am I? We have personalities, temperaments and ways of being. Every person is unique, and part of maturing is discovering who one is and what he or she needs. We also change our views, attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors as we age. THE FAMILY WORLD -- Where do I fit? We are born into a family. To survive and thrive in that family, we act in certain ways, trying to fit in and be safe. We are scripted into roles, and we play with them all of our lives. Some roles we learn to play in our family might be: The smart one The quiet one The clown The rescuer of the family The mediator, go-between The one who messes up The passive one The good listener The therapist THE SCHOOL/PEER WORLD -- How do I cope with others and organizational demands? We then join the peer world, the world of children and school. We learn to play the school game, fit in, and get along. We found our group, or niche, if we are lucky. We learn to play a part in that group. We learn the student role, and the friend role. THE PARTNER WORLD -- How do I maintain my own integrity and still adapt to my partner? Eventually, we may find a romantic partner. We play the boyfriend or girlfriend role, This world changes as we age, and we adjust and adapt to expectations. And we learn to relate to our partner's family. THE PARENT WORLD -- What skills are needed to raise this child? When we have children, we join the parent world. Making decisions daily that affect a smaller, helpless being. THE GRANDPARENT WORLD -- How involved do I become? When our children grow up, and have children of their own, we learn to navigate the grandparent role. What are rules, boundaries, and limits? THE WORK WORLD -- How can I be productive, make a living, and get along with others? We start working in young adulthood, and have to adjust to bosses, co-workers, workplace etiquette and rules. If we change careers and jobs, we must adjust to new roles and people. There are often new skills to learn. THE ADULT FRIEND WORLD -- Who are my people? Who we befriend determines how we relate, connect, and act. We develop social groups, hobbies, and past-times which often have guidelines and practices of their own. It is a time of discovery of what one loves to do in one's spare time. THE COMMUNITY MEMBER WORLD -- What is my social and political responsibility? We can become socially and politically active in our communities. As a result, we are thrust into a variety of environments. We develop social values and live them out. We are part of a neighborhood. When we move geographically, we have to start over making new connections, and learning how to fit in. THE SPIRITUAL WORLD -- What is my relationship to the Divine? We join religious groups and institutions, and develop our spiritual lives. We connect with different people from different backgrounds, races, ages and social classes. We develop spiritual practices which provide amounts of comfort and support. We explore questions like "What does my life mean?" THE ELDER WORLD -- How do I grow old and still maintain my sense of identity and worth? As we age, we may retire from work. We grow older, and develop various health issues. We often become medical patients, and generally have to deal with changes in our bodies, hormone levels, and energy levels. Eventually, we decline, and finally die. Many people do not give themselves enough credit for navigating all of these worlds, and adjusting to a wide variety of roles and expectations.
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Compassion and Passion1/28/2021 A Compassionate Ear and a Passion for Positive ChangeThere Is No Present Like TIME
In the movie called "The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel" about elderly people in India, Judi Dench's character states: "There is no present like time." This, of course, is a take-off on "There is no time like the present." I have been thinking a lot about time lately. Am I old? After all, I one of the first ones approved for the COVID vaccine. Am I retired? No, I don't think so. Parts of my life have changed, but I am still in the world, doing something I hope is valuable to others. My official "jobs" are over. I taught college for 40 years. I was a therapist in private practice for 25 years. I led men's and couple support groups for 25 years. But I am still a husband, a father, a friend, a grandfather, an uncle, and a community member. All of these official occupations were a big part of my life. But my life goes on after those endeavors are completed. I wrote books, plays, and produced films. They are still out there, and on my shelves. But they are not my essence. I have wondered with this virus, "How long do I really have to live?" I don't know. I've never known, and I don't know now. So, it is not yet my time to die. Being close to 80 seems like it is moving into the final stretch. Betty White turns 100 as I write this. Cicely Tyson is 96. Both are functioning, creative, and inspiring people. Maybe I have lots of time? The question remains: What do I do with this precious, amazing time? What I have come to believe is that TIME IS A GIFT. TIME is not to be taken for granted. As long as I am able to listen, support others, and live with compassion, I will continue to do so. It doesn't have a name, or definition. It is just a blessed gift of time. As my wife, Gloria, says, "It is my job to be available." Time to be available. To be a constant force for love in the world. Maybe that's what it is all about. Using the time when I have energy, health, and prosperity to be a light in the world. This means living in integrity, being consistent, telling the truth, supporting those in need and having a compassionate ear. I can also promote social and racial justice, fairness, equality for all, and mindfulness about the environment. Yeah, that's it. A Compassionate Ear and a Passion for Positive Change. I can share my ideas, and make suggestions when I am asked to do so. I am committed to being present, loving, and kind. There is no job definition of those, and no paycheck. But, my time has come to use what I have studied and learned about people, social institutions, and how life seems to work -- to be an elder. Wait a minute. Being an "elder" is too limiting also. I am every age I have ever been. Maybe it goes like this: Just be, be grateful for the gift of time, the health, the ability to shut up when necessary, to speak up when it makes sense, reach out and pay attention. So -- that's my identity. That's my category. No category -- but continuing to do God's will, to bring out more peace, understanding, and justice in the world. We certainly need it. Thank you, God, for the gift of TIME.
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Prayer for Unity1/28/2021 We're all in this together
We need each other for support So let's start over with empathy And learn to share, care, and forgive We can pray for peace But we must do our part Protect those in need And overcome selfishness There is much to be done And great suffering abounds We must free the outcasts And lift up the underdogs We must overcome this virus And move into health For all in our community It is time to get real Racism, classism, ageism Sexism, heterosexism No one is superior when When we are all one Let us remember our Creator Who gave us all life And supports our every breath As we keep fighting for justice We are Unity Minneapolis We are united in our purpose To spread Divine Love All over this planet The earth needs tender care Let us be aware and mindful Of global warming and pollution With responsible stewardship So let love guide our hearts And heal our souls As we come together in peace And turn our prayers into action
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Our Legacy1/12/2021 LEGACY -- The Imprint We Leave BehindEvery day, we have an opportunity to do our part to bring more love, peace, and joy into the world. Our every action can make a difference in somebody's life. When we leave this earthly body and this planet, it is helpful to know what we have learned, and what we have left behind. This is called our "legacy."
Here, we will take the letters of "legacy" and describe in more detail what that can look like. L -- Love Lessons We have daily opportunities to share love in the world. We can be kind to those we know, and those we hardly know. Our behaviors reflect our feelings. So, it is important to ask oneself, "What is the most loving thing I can do in this situation?" We also learn to love ourselves, and receive love from others. This caring, nurturing feeling reinforces our knowing our own beauty and God-like-ness. We can also teach others to love more by setting an example, being a role model. E -- Energetic Experiences By living fully, in the moment, and being the vibrant creation that we are, we feel a deep connection with all there is in the world. This feeling of connection affects our actions, thoughts and feelings. We have had many different types of encounters. Some of these encounters have been joyous and meaningful, filled with love. Others may have been painful, challenging and ultimately enlightening. We leave behind the complexity, depth, and intensity of what we have lived. G -- God's Grace, Gratitude and Generosity We live in God's grace, knowing we are loved, cherished, forgiven, and appreciated. With this, we do not need to applause, attention, and approval of others. By knowing this about our lives, we develop freedom to help others become their true selves. We are generous with our resources including our time. We live in gratitude and appreciating our gifts and talent. We do not take for granted our good health, mental and physical skills, and ability to connect and care about others. A -- Affirming Actions and Availability We live with a positive attitude about ourselves, life, and the world. Our actions reflect this positivity. Our actions affect others, and they, in turn, affect others. So, by affirming that WE ARE LOVE IN ACTION, we become instruments of God's unending love. We make ourselves available to others in need. We listen, care, and support those around us who are hurting. C -- Courageous Connections We develop friendships and intimate connections with others. We are courageous and take appropriate risks. We live out our potential and dreams by going out into a challenging world, and difficult situations. We speak up for justice, truth, and integrity of all people. We are mindful and selective as we venture into uncharted waters. We also teach others to be courageous by our example. We are blessed to have resilience, the ability to bounce back. Y -- Yearning for Yonder As creative human beings, we have the gift of imagination. We can see beyond the obvious. We wander, and we wonder. We explore and we move into the spiritual realm. This energy of exploration means that we are continuously expanding, and learning new ways of being. We move into worlds different than the one we were raised in. We travel to different places, see different people. All the while, we realize we are one with God, and each other, and nothing can separate us from that knowing. As we have goals and dreams, we inspire others to see that were is more beyond the horizon. What a journey it is to live this human experience! Since we are spiritual beings, we have a depth to us that transcends what is visible. As we move into later life, we become aware that our legacy is not just money or possessions, but an imprint that has made a meaningful difference in the human world. And for this, we are grateful and blessed.
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Really Henpecked12/28/2020 Living with 10,000 ChickensI grew up in rural central New Jersey on a 10,000 white leghorn chicken farm. All chickens, no roosters. My father, mother and I worked hard every day collecting, cleaning, sorting, and packing eggs.
My Dad did not believe in caging animals. So, no cages. Coops with room to run around, and free range time on five acres during the warmer months. There were about 200 per room. Chickens made lots of noise, cackled from 5 a.m., and smelled like manure which they readily manufactured. The laid eggs in wall nests, and slept on wooded perches. We got to go outside when the chickens moved onto the range for the five warmer months, April through September. I remember the small pleasures I had as I fed them by spreading grain from pails. There was an airport nearby, and I imagined the pilots getting a laugh as they flew overhead. I wrote out words on the ground in grain, and the chickens all ate in the configurations of the words, making them even larger. At age eight, words like "shit" and other curse words were my favorites. My father never knew. We had several dogs as pets during my childhood, but they would run out to the highway and get killed. So, we couldn't have dogs anymore. However, when was around age ten, I had a pet chicken named "Troodle" for Gertrude. She would run across the room in the coop when I called her name. She would sit down in front of me, and I would pick her up and pet her. She had a painted red mark on her white feathers. When the chickens molted and were sold to the butcher, Troodle was spared. Although she had molted like the others, eventually all of her feathers grew back, and she looked vibrant again. She lived over five years which is long for a chicken and died of old age. I was about fourteen, and cried very when she passed. I never had another pet chicken. I learned about nurturing animals, the cycle of birth and death. We had to deal with diseases and hurricanes. I worked with my parents every day after school, and all day in the summer and on weekends. I started around age seven. I collected eggs, and helped wash, sort, and pack them. I was proud that our truck had letters written on it saying, "David Obsatz and Son." At times, I really resented the farm and the chickens, the daily routine, and the lack of free time to play with friends. However, we spent many evenings in the summer as a family going to the ocean in Asbury Park, about fifteen minutes away. We watched the waves, the pigeons, the seagulls, and eating salt water taffy. You'd think that I would be tired of birds of any kind by evening. |